Preparing for a Jewish Marriage Built on Kedushah, Love, and Clarity
Professional Chatan lessons in Taharat HaMishpacha —
available online worldwide or in Jerusalem
You’re Becoming a Chatan.
It’s Time to Prepare — Properly.
This is one of the most meaningful moments of your life.
You’ve found the woman you want to build your life with. You’re preparing to establish a Jewish home — a place of love, trust, holiness, and shared purpose. This time before marriage is meant to be exciting, uplifting, and grounding. And you deserve guidance that is clear, respectful, and rooted deeply in Torah.
Chatan lessons are not just a formality.
They are a foundation for a strong, healthy, and enduring Jewish marriage.
What Are Chatan Lessons?
Chatan lessons prepare a groom to enter marriage with understanding, responsibility, and confidence — especially regarding Taharat HaMishpacha (the laws of Family Purity), one of the three foundational pillars of the Jewish home.
By the time a young man reaches marriage, he is usually familiar with:
- Kashrut
- Shabbat and Yom Tov
- Tefillin, Mezuzah, Tzitzit
- Tefillah and daily Jewish life
But Taharat HaMishpacha is often new territory.
These laws are subtle, detailed, and deeply impactful — shaping not only intimacy, but communication, respect, emotional connection, and spiritual growth between husband and wife.
Why Taharat HaMishpacha Matters So Much
From the onset of a woman’s monthly cycle, she enters a halachic status known as Niddah. This status remains until she prepares and immerses in a kosher Mikvah, at which point marital intimacy is once again permitted.
This process repeats throughout married life.
Far from creating distance, this rhythm of separation and reunion:
- Cultivates deep respect between husband and wife
- Strengthens emotional connection beyond the physical
- Encourages ongoing communication and sensitivity
- Keeps marriage fresh, intentional, and sacred
When followed according to Halacha, these laws elevate marriage from habit to holiness — allowing each spouse to be seen as a soul, not an object.
Complexity of the Laws —
Made Clear and Accessible
The laws of Taharat HaMishpacha are not simple. They include:
- Detailed halachic definitions
- Practical applications in daily married life
- Situations that require clarity, sensitivity, and discretion
Every Chatan must learn these laws properly, from a qualified teacher, in a respectful and structured way.
That is exactly what these lessons provide.
What You Will Learn
(Chatan Lesson Syllabus)
During your Chatan lessons, you will learn:
- The foundations and purpose of Taharat HaMishpacha
- The laws of Niddah according to the Shulchan Aruch
- Periods of separation and permitted closeness
- Preparation for Mikvah — halachic and practical aspects
- How these laws apply in real married life
- Common questions and real-world scenarios
- The spiritual meaning behind the mitzvah
- How these laws strengthen love, respect, and connection
Lessons are taught clearly, sensitively, and without embarrassment, with full respect for modesty and dignity.
About Rabbi Eliyahu Shear
Rabbi Eliyahu Shear is a qualified and experienced Chatan counselor, certified by Rabbi Fishel Jacobs of Kfar Chabad, author of Family Purity and other well-known works.
With decades of experience in Torah education and personal guidance, Rabbi Shear teaches Chatanim with:
- Clarity and patience
- Deep respect for Halacha
- Emotional intelligence and understanding
- A warm, non-judgmental approach
The goal is not only knowledge — but confidence, responsibility, and readiness for marriage.
Rav Eliyahu’s wife, Shoshanah, teaches the Kallot separately.
How the Lessons Work
- Private, one-on-one sessions
- Available online (worldwide) or in person in Jerusalem
- Taught at a pace appropriate to each Chatan
- All lessons are conducted professionally and discreetly
“Thank you for your teaching and your wonderful enthusiasm.”
— S.M.
A Torah Perspective
on the Importance of Family Purity
The seriousness and significance of Taharat HaMishpacha are emphasized strongly throughout Torah tradition.
As Rabbi Yosef Yitzchak Schneersohn teaches (Likkutei Dibburim, Vol. 5, p. 242), the observance of family purity profoundly affects the spiritual, emotional, and even physical well-being of the couple and their future children.
These teachings are not meant to instill fear — but to underscore the immense value and responsibility entrusted to a Jewish marriage.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
Who are these Chatan lessons for?
These lessons are for Jewish men preparing for marriage who want to understand Taharat HaMishpacha clearly and correctly.
They are suitable for:
- Frum and observant Chatanim
- Baalei teshuvah
- Converts to Judaism
- Those who did not receive formal Chatan instruction previously
No prior in-depth knowledge is required.
Are the lessons appropriate for someone with limited background?
Absolutely.
Lessons are taught in a clear, respectful, and non-assumptive manner, meeting each Chatan where he is. Questions are encouraged, and nothing is taken for granted.
Are these lessons Halachically reliable?
Yes.
All instruction is based on Shulchan Aruch and accepted Halachic authorities, taught by a certified Chatan counselor with many years of experience.
How many sessions are usually needed?
The number of sessions depends on your background and pace.
Most Chatanim complete the course over several private sessions, ensuring proper understanding and confidence before marriage.
Are the lessons private?
Yes — completely.
All lessons are conducted one-on-one, with full discretion and sensitivity to modesty and personal boundaries.
Are the lessons offered online?
Yes.
Chatan lessons are available online via video call, making them accessible to students worldwide.
In-person lessons are also available in Jerusalem.
Will I receive a certificate upon completion?
Yes. For those prepared to write the full examination at the end of the course.
Upon successful completion of the Chatan lessons in Taharat HaMishpacha, a certificate is provided, which may be required by some Rabbanim or communities.
Who teaches the Kallah?
The Kallot are taught separately by Shoshanah Shear, in accordance with proper modesty and Halachic guidelines.
Is this only technical Halacha, or also the meaning behind it?
Both.
The lessons cover practical Halacha thoroughly, while also explaining the spiritual meaning, emotional depth, and marital wisdom behind the mitzvah — helping Chatanim appreciate why these laws matter, not just how to observe them.
When should I begin Chatan lessons?
Ideally, lessons should begin several weeks before the wedding (if not even earlier…), allowing time to absorb the material calmly and thoughtfully.
If your wedding is approaching soon, please reach out to discuss scheduling.
How do I get started?
Simply reach out via the contact form or email to inquire about availability.
Please note in your message that you understand the lessons are offered on a professional basis.
Ready to Begin?
Chatan lessons are an investment in:
- Your marriage
- Your home
- Your future family
If you are preparing for marriage and want to enter it with clarity, kedushah, and confidence, you are warmly invited to reach out.
👉 To inquire about Chatan lessons, please contact Rabbi Eliyahu Shear directly.
Kindly note in your message that you understand lessons are offered on a professional basis.
